In honor of Mother’s Day, this Sunday, I'd love to introduce you all to one of my favorite moms and President of One Village Coffee, Andrea Hackman! She is the daughter-in-law of our founder, Steve Hackman, and daily inspires, motivates and reminds our team that we are all a part of a village. I recently asked her about the challenge of balancing her professional life with her family life. Her story inspired me so much I wanted to pass it along to all of you. Here we go...
Jess asked me to write a blog about my life as a working parent. I wasn’t sure where to start or even begin. What I do know is, I love being a mom and my family is the most important thing in my life. I have a daughter who is 8 and a son who is 4 (almost 5). My husband and I have been married for almost 16 years and we have worked together to be intentional about creating family life that is meaningful.
It’s not glamorous and it’s not easy – it’s daily small choices. There’s a lot of rhythm to our life that includes, waking up, getting ready, making sure we eat, have lunches packed, and are out the door in time to not be late for school and work. I love how my daughter calls it being grateful for the necessities in life – food, clothing, shelter. As we go our respective ways you will normally hear me say, “Make it good.” as I run out the door. This is a phrase my grandma used to tell my mom, who told me, and now I tell my kids. Life isn’t always great, it’s not always horrible, but it’s about finding the balance between making it good and meaningful.
I won’t go into a ton of detail about my work life (another blog for another day) because this post is on balancing my life as a whole. What I will say is my kids know what I do and I try to involve them as much as possible. They’ve been here at the roastery, done homework in my office, helped peel labels to put on bags, and know that One Village Coffee is another piece of being a part of our family.
In all honesty, there are times I doubt having a professional career – did I miss out for not spending more time with my kids during their most formative years? A part of me grieves this loss. But, then I look on the gains. If I can be an example to my son and daughter of what it means to find a career that combines your passion and skills – it’s worth it.
They will grow up, they will leave the house, they will be on their own. My hope is that through the years of being in our home, they can lean into their strengths and learn how to manage their weaknesses. And most of all, they can be kind, loving, and respectful people. My kids are one part of me. My work is another part of me. But, I’m constantly reminding myself that my sole identity isn’t wrapped up in one thing. I am a woman who has a tremendous amount of grit, who gives my all in all I do, and who loves deeply. I believe in the good in humanity and people – that we are One Village.
The hardest part of this balancing act is not putting myself last. I tend to take care of other people and tasks before I take care of myself. Every day brings new experiences and challenges. I would love to hear from other working parents on what has worked for their families! How do you find time to take care of yourself? Let me know in the comments below!
Cheers to all the moms (and dads) out there (because we all work) – and I wish that each of you takes time for yourself this week to celebrate how awesome you are!